Originally Posted by Unregister

Ive been in the situation but from the girls point of view (cuz i am a girl lol)
when my mate asked me out i hav to admit i was pretty shocked
but obvioulisly he was just my mate so i said no
he never did anything drastic but some advice from me if he had wrote me a letter like your planning...
i would have felt incredibly awkward around him and probely wouldn't have spoken to him for a few months
it wasn't anything you did to make her feel like your a brother it's good that you ensured she felt comfortable around you...
just give her time she might come round...
i did :D