just read the details of the ASL!?!?! board so i thought i might ask, may have been asked before but hasn't everything ^^

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I don't believe you can romantically have feelings for someone you have never met. You can definately care about them but it has a limit.

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thats a good way of looking at it, i also believe you can care for people you havent met, but if they turned out to be different from the person you have "conjoured up in your head" then things would probably rapidly change if you ever met.

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And sometimes it's not you conjouring anything up, it's them telling fibs!

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thats true, maybe the world would be better if people couldnt lie, but then again the fighting and arguements that go on would still be the same.

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I don't believe in online romance. I do believe that you can fall for people online though, I have. If you meet up with them in real life (after having met them online) and a romance forms, then obviously the online aspect may have had something to do with it. But as for romance alone without meeting up, I don't believe in it.

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Not at all, You can have a online relationship to a certian extent, but once the computers gone..Are you really going to be the same?
I'm certianly not..When I visted pf, I found it hard to connect without the internet, and spoke to her on msn for a bit until I could relax enough.
And its much harder, because you can look so different in pictures, the first thing I thought is " Oh my god, shes going to see how much weight I've gained, how many spots I've got, how ugly I am.."
And then I began to compare myself to her, and how much more beautiful she was, how skinner etc..
I don't really know why that was relevant, but..If thats just a friendship concern, god knows what romance would be like..I hate even getting chatted up on msn, or chat rooms..I just say I am ugly, fat and spotty..your not going to like me. hah.

I've had a crush on somebody on the message boards beforee, Even fantasied and everything!!
but I wouldn't go as far as a romance, Its almost impossible to make it work.

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On these boards? Who was itttt?

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your not "ugly" nobody is, everyone is just different, we only think of this perfect body image because of the media, just the way the world works, you shouldnt let what people think get to you. Im "chubby" other people say im fat, or thin just how it is. im quite happy with my weight tbh even though i said im chubby.

off to sleep (never feel tired lately so im taking advantage )

night

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ooo and for the spots.... clearasil really works (Y)

use it all time i do i rarely get spots. also do not touch your face often as the oil off your fingers causes spots (not your diet) like if you touch your hair a lot it goes greasy.


oh ye .. if you think your fat then try loose a few pounds but you may have an average bmi anyhoo, but if you decide to, do it for you not for other people

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LooL they don't post here anymoreee.
yrs agoo, I was like twelve hah.

And Jess, to me I am..and thats a personal opinion, like you have of yourself..

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ive tried it twice and both times it sucked would never do it again no matter who it was

I have a couple of times, it doesn't really work, we spoke alot of msn and a IRC channel and talked on the phone a lot, but never met up (We where going to, I was up in London with family so we where going to meet up but she had to cancel the day before as her mum got taken to hospital), by then we wheren't going out, just friends.

I had another one, but that was not worth talking about, turned out she lied about having cancer, was 'dating' 4 guys at the same time, cybered and went on cam with everyone. You get the idea.

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I have met a couple of guys I've dated online, but like it's been said... offline the romance fizzles quickly.

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Firstly I don't think you can 'go out' with someone you've never met. And secondly...so you think that because she had a connection with you she wasn't entitled to feel the same about anyone else despite the fact that you were in no way shape or from committed to each other?

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i dont believe in going out with someone you've never met, maybe online romance just belongs in films like "you've got mail" . hmmm although someone writing love letters wouldnt be so bad but would never turn into anything. most guys have the obsession about cyber sex (sorry for the generalisation). why cyber sex? its absolutely stupid. i'd rather just have a normal conversation tbh.

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why would anyone want to pretend to have cancer ! thats horrible.

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I know of friends who have done it, and it's never worked out.
But if the people are mature enough, willing to risk it, and ready to start from scratch again once they meet I can't see why it's not worth a try.

My friends Dad and Stepmum met online, that was though a dating website so I guess it's a little different, but the idea is still there.

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<3 Markeh

talking to people online can be a blessing though. nobody knows who you are. you could be known to be a complete loser. But online you could be considered a nice person, hmmmmm

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There is something to say about the internet.
It can be a good way to finally express who you really are to people without the fear and stigma of face to face confrontation, but on the other hand, there is still the ability to mask yourself and be a totally different person completely. It's really a shot in the dark.

I know that I'm not terribly popular in real life, in fact, I'm pretty lonerish and dorky laced with a hint of bitchiness. Most people wouldn't take the time to get to know me. Online, I'm not afraid to be myself because people aren't looking at my appearance (which is a big factor in how I present myself because I'm not comfortable with how I look). So its a double edged blade.

For some it works, for some it doesn't. I say, whatever floats your boat.

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