is looser a word? looks weird. k whatever anyways

Can you get considerably looser for the rest of your life from having sex one time with someone who was quite thick? Cause I've only ever had sex with my boyfriend right, and we broke up and I had sex with some guy I've always had a little thing for (big mistake lalalala) and now I'm back with the bf and I can't..feel him..as much anymore. His dick's longer but not as thick as the boy I slept with the one time. Is this for life? : ( Tell me please.

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I doubt it's actually a lot physically looser, it's more likely just to be a psychological thing. If you're sure it's really a lot looser then you could try the pelvic floor exercises?

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I FEEL LIKE MY WHOLE LIFE HAS BEEN ONE BIG LIEEEEEEE

"How we feel influences the size of our vaginas at any given moment

One reason for that is because if we're nervous about something, if we're not relaxed, and if we're not sexually aroused -- something which usually happens gradually -- our vaginas have not -- at THAT moment, not forever and ever -- expanded enough because of feeling okay and relaxed and aroused, for more than one finger to be comfortable. And with all kinds of sex, once we feel more comfortable with certain activities, and less fearful of them, it can get easier and easier over time to get more relaxed and more aroused about it more quickly.
So, it's normal for someone who has never had sex to have a vagina or vaginal opening that feel "tight," but not because that tightness is a permanent state sex will change over time physically. Rather, because most people are really nervous about sex the first few times, not all that aroused, and so their bodies act in kind: the vagina doesn't loosen more easily the way it will if we become more accustomed to the idea and less fearful.
Those claims that people who have had more sex are "looser" are based in a LOT of ignorance, a lot of it coming from people who just don't understand that when someone's vagina feels very tight -- and that can happen with women my age who have had sex hundreds upon hundreds of times for decades -- it's about them being nervous, fearful or not sexually aroused at that moment. If, an hour later, they felt better about things and GOT fully aroused, that very same vagina that felt so tight an hour nefore would feel much less so that hour later. That myth also has a lot to do with men deciding it's better for women to be "tight," when, in fact, for women it's usually very uncomfortable and not better at all. In fact, it tends to be painful for women.
Also, when a woman gets more sexually aroused, the back of the vagina does what is called "tenting." That means the cervix pulls back, and kind of like a balloon when you blow it up, more room is made in the vagina -- otherwise, an average size penis wouldn't fit inside, and trying to make it fit would hurt. But that too, isn't permanent: when a woman is no longer aroused, the vagina goes back to it's usual size, which, on average, for ALL women is only a few inches when unaroused. "
(But intercourse DID totally change my vagina! | Scarleteen)

so confused ah my god.

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well your vag is basically a sphincter, like your pee hole and your butt. when you're relaxed they can loosen but if your anxious it's harder. like have you ever been on the toilet having a piss and then someone bursts in and you just suddenly stop peeing involuntarily? the sphincter contracts when you're shocked. same with childbirth. hospital births tend to be longer because they continuously have people coming in and out of the room who the woman might not be comfortable with and there are normally like ten people peering between her legs and yelling at her so she doesn't sorta let go, relax and let the baby come, as it were. also apparently when male doctors do a pelvic examination to check dilation they're rougher which can make the cervix kinda undilate. yah, childbirth can actually go backwards if you're not looked after right! and in the case of rape, it's more painful than consensual sex because a, it's rougher and b, your vaginal sphincter tightens with fear.

so that's what that's about.

the reason why you don't feel him as much is probably because of how comfortable you are having sex him and how wet you are, not that the last dude stretched you or anything.

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