Man.

I am totally out of my element here. I love my boyfriend incredibly and I know he loves me and I know that he hasn't had the best relationships in the past (namely, he's been cheated on by multiple times) but sometimes I just want to kick him in the balls if only to make him understand that I am not like those girls. I am not someone who is one person with him and a different person around everyone else.

Like today for instance. I brought him lunch at work and a friend of ours , Tony, came over and was talking to us and he got into the car and we were talking. Actually, I was talking to him because Walter is a quiet guy, and is - as I found out today - extremely jealous of Tony.

Now, Tony is a really old friend of my family. We hung out alot when we were kids and my mom helped him out alot throughout his teenage years. I hadn't seen Tony in well over 6 years, and that means my mom hasn't seen Tony in well over 6 years. Today, Tony told me to tell my mom that he was coming to have coffee with her sometime so he could catch up and let her know how he was doing (thanks to her) and because we moved, I gave him my house number so he could call and let her know and get directions whenever he wanted to come up and see her. Well my boyfriend gets mad and basically, after Tony left, told me that he knows what's going on and that he knows what Tony is interested in me. Of course, I'm agape and starting to get mad because I've told him a million times that I love him and only him. In fact, sometimes I think he could be the guy for me, the one you know?

So all I said to him was "And do you think I'm interested?"

He just said "I don't know." and sighed.

I was so mad I threw his work gloves at him and told him I had to go, and that if he wanted to open his eyes and realize that I'm in love with him then he can come over and see me.

I am just so mad! ARGH.

I can understand his vulnerability and I can even see how he might be upset by me giving my number to Tony (even if it was ONLY so he could get into contact with my mom) but sometimes it just frustrates me so much. I love him so much its ridiculous, and that he would even THINK that I could, much less WOULD, do that to him really hurts me.


/rant.

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Hahahha I'm in the exact same boat it's so weird. Except with me, I did cheat on him (kinda). And now he's all untrusty and if he sees a photo of me on facebook with a guy he freaks out and interrogates me the next morning after a party.

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/HUG!

I never know what to say with things like this, but hopefully he'll realise that your not like the others <3

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<3Markeh

Show him this page

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He's not taking on board all the reassurance that you're giving him, so maybe you should point out that although you love him to death, his jealousy and whatnot is restricting the relationship you have and could have in the future.
Maybe if he sees this from another side.. that he's causing a slight wedge between you over this, then he'll think twice about his actions.
At the same time, you know he's vulnerable and has a trust issue, so watch out for situations such as this, and just give him a squeeze of the hand or knowing smile for a bit of reassurance, and so he knows you're with him.

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Ohmydayz.
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I used to be like that (him) and I don't think you can stop his insecurities, he has to do it himself.