Right...
Well, I was just wondering what you guys thought about Long Distance relationships.

For the first time since me and Emma finished in January this year I've developed feelings for someone... and it all happened so fast and as if by accident.
I honestly didn't see it coming, and it all happened in a couple of weeks. It was incredible.

So anyway... we spoke every day.
Phone calls every night, text messaging all through the day.
MSN most nights...
Some nights we agreed to just spending 10 minutes on the phone to say goodnight because we had to be up early, but it quickly turned into 4 hours.
Our feelings weren't exactly secret, and we both knew what it all involved, you know?

Anyway.. I went to see her and I spent 6 days at her house last week.
It was amazing, and yeah... for the most part we were holding hands everywhere... cuddling all of the time.
We kissed... nothing more than kissing though.
And yeah.. we both want to be together, and we've both told each other that.

But this is where the problem comes in.
We're both afraid, because she lives in Leeds, or just outside-of and I live in Gloucester.
That's 4 hours distance...
I've said that I'd gladly pay the train fare every week to spend at least a day or 2 with her on days I'm not working, which are random.
So far there shouldn't be a problem.. because we'd both be fine with that and it'd be worth it.

The real problem is that she's going to finish her 2nd year of 6th form next month [she's 17] and she has to work sometimes too meaning she'll be busy nearly all of the time.
Luckily her mum likes me, and is exremely laid back with me staying which could work to our advantage,
But we're both really afraid about this and it really does complicate everything.
For the first time in a long time I've felt really at home with someone, and it's just a shame that person is far up North.
What makes it worse is that she feels exactly the same way I do but we have so much to work out before we could actually be together.
She said she needs time to think, I think I do too but yeah.
I'm willing to sacrifice the time just to spend some time with her every week,
It's just going to be a hard thing to sort out.


Opinions?
Ideas?
Experiences?

I started dating my bf 5 years ago, and 3.5 years of it have been long distance. It can work if you both trust each other and are okay with not knowing every single move she makes. It sucks a lot of the time, but tbh, school is busy for the both of us, so its nice to be able to spend time studying as well as hanging out with other friends.

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Yeah... trust isn't so much an issue.
I know I trust her, and I have no problem with not knowing everything she does.
The only thing is that soon when I start my topman thing I'll be working a random 2/3/4 days a week so it won't really be planned.
And she'll be in 6th form again next month, working a bit too.

Finding time I could ever spend with her would be hard,
And I know that the one thing we would need to get it to work is a little time together each week.
Like I said I would gladly go down each week, and if I could stay sometimes it'd be perfect.
And then the holidays, well. The holidays would just be the best D:

But yeah... I don't know what to say or do to work this out with her.
I know she wants the same as I do, but she said she needs to think if it's plausable.

Sometimes I don't see my bf more than once a month. It really sucks, but the waiting is worth it. When you finally do see each other, you make the best of your time. Its more special in a lot of cases. You don't take anything for granted.

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me and my boyf had that problem but he was only in manchester(i live in liverpool) but with me being in school and him being in work we had to wait until the hollidays for him to book time off to come and see me and he was ment to just spend the weekend but ended up staying in my house and luckily my mum and dad didnt mind because in 2 months he had fitted a new kitchen decorated nearly the whole house and tought my little brother self defence as he was being bullied but i dont think your gonna move four hours away from your family and friends this early so i think that you should try and stick with it until you guys feel comfortable moving in with each other? and most jobs you get at least 20 days hollidays aswell as your days off so why not try and get the same days off and go away for some weekends together or something? if you guys are really in love you will find a way to make it work

Yeah.... thanks guys.
Things just got more complicated though, and I honestly have no idea as to why they're like this.
Me and her have a mutual friend named Rick who like.. I actually made good friends with at her house party whilst I was there.
He's a really nice guy and yeah, I pierced his ear [lol] and we just had lots in common so we swapped numbers and now are pretty close.
Anyway.... she's at Leeds Fest this weekend and told me last night that she was there then.
And was texting me about a camp fire and whatever else, lol.
I mentioned it to Rick because he's also going, but he's going tomorrow and wanted to know where she was camping.
Anywho... he rung her this morning to ask and she was in traffic on her way up?
So basically she lied to me for some reason and wasn't actually there at all.
If I'm honest I think she's partially avoiding me for whatever reason, if it's out of fear of the distance... or if it's just plain having second thoughts -_-

She cried on me at her party because I stormed upstairs after apparently giving her the wrong signals during the week because I was afraid, and she felt like I didn't like her the same.
I ran upstairs because I walked in on her kissing some guy drunk =|
And I was upset so yeah... but she broke down saying she didn't know I felt so strong and had messed up and she was scared I'd never go back to see her again.

But now she's totally shutting me out and hardly ever speaking to me?
Yet when we do speak she explains she wants to be with me?
Wtf? Confused.

Ive got like an experience with long distance
We're the same as you text all day, msn evenin, late night phone calls that turn into morning.
We're like 6hourss away from each other.. Plus we're only 15 so is act near enough impossible to get together as much as we want.
but yehh i know how she feels because when you dont see how things are going to work, when your worried about the future because you want it to be with him but dont see how it can be.. you push away the problem. Just tell her your going to make it work and you will be together in time.. promise her when your working all these hours, its to get a flat near her or something.. its just the reassurance she needs that the effort, her love will pay off and not end in pain. I hope it works out for you =]
wel thats what i think nyway =P
& if she still pushes away i think you may have to just have it out with her, ask her whats the matter.

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maybe shes scared because she doesnt know if it will really work and if you really do feel how you do, or was meeting up with an ex but as mates and didnt want you to get the wrong idea so she lied to you?...i did that to my bf because he hates my ex but anyways there are loads of logic reasons why she lied to you, it doesnt mean she was avoiding you if she is still textin/talking to you...

and as for the drunk kiss thing i kissed my best friend when i was drunk...people do weird stuff so dont think anything of that yeh

good luck xx

it's really hard to trust these days.

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