i think im pregnant but im still in school and i really didnt plan it and i dont think i could cope with having a baby just yet but when i told my boyfriend (ive been with him for 15 months and he is 17) he was really happy and acted like he wanted to keep it but i dont want to leave school and i couldnt cope with being called a slag in school so the only option i have is getting an abortion but ive always said that people who have abortions are evil because the baby hasnt done anything exept be made and it isnt the mothers place 2 kil an innocent child because its inconvinient but im nearly 16 and if my mum and dad find out my mum will kick me out and my dad will hate me but ifthey find out i have had an abortion theyll hate me anyway...i dont know what to do...

Personally, I think its your choice. Its what you can live with and what you can't live with. The faster you know if you're pregnant, the faster you'll feel better. Go to your GP. It's all confidential so he can't tell your parents. Though, from personal experience, we can sometimes underestimate our parents compassion in situations like this.

Good luck

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find out if you are before you worry yourself to death over it.

if you are i recommend life's helpline: 0800 915 4600. or you can text them if you're shy: 07786 200 330. they've helped a few of my friends no end. they're very understanding.

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If it makes things any easier, it's just a couple of pills assuming you're under 12 weeks. You really have to consider what would be more "evil." Raising a child you cannot afford, or cope with. OR, aborting said child who has no self awareness and waiting until you can afford and cope with one.

Nobody can make this choice for you. Your parents don't have to find out about an abortion but DO NOT go through it alone. It's extremely difficult on your emotional wellbeing.

Good luck.

you can never really know about this kind of thing until you go through it, and abortion is one of those things that can only ever be dealt with in case by case basis, so don't feel bad. i don't like the idea, but i know if i got pregnant now i would only have the option of having one, because i could offer a baby nothing, and both mine and its life would be ruined, and if the father pitched in his fair share, his too. only you can decide if you can offer the baby what you think it would need, and if you would be worse off having the baby than an abortion. you should find out if you're pregnant asap, though, definately.

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i am deffz preg bt i dnt tink i cud cope wiv a baby but then i dont think i could go through with an abortion.......im so confused

Depends on if you think the baby will hold you back, like for example when you said you don't wanna leave school.

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ur underage...nothing any of us can do kid. ur only a child urself....really think about it....do u really wanna waste ur life away??
but.....don't let us tell u, do what u want, no body else can make the decison but you! u need to talk with ur partner...decide what is rigt together....and a lil bit of advice ....use contraception!.

I disagree with that, actually. I think it has to be solely your decision. If your partner says, 'yeah, let's have it' he's not going to be the one pregnant for nine months, he won't expect to have to be the main care-giver to the baby, and if he feels like it he can piss off and leave you with a baby to take care of on your own. Think about it, talk with your mum about it, and for fuck's sake be more careful.

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I used to be all "I'll never tell my partner" is something like this happened.

Then it did.

We had a scare, and while we waited to find out, we ended up discussing our options, would we? could we? All the If's were counted, lucky for us it was only a scare.

I think the father has a RIGHT to know, and should be consulted with regards to the decision making. He did his part, it takes two to make a baby. He has a right to be a part of the decision making - but in the end, it has to be about you and whether or not you can do it.

Abortion is not a pretty thing. It is painful, and uncomfortable in some circumstances. I don't know about the UK, but here in Canada there are no pills to take if you're less than 7 weeks. You can only get an abortion after 7 weeks, and thats with an ultrasound report. It's a strange feeling walking into a clinic knowing what you're going to do. Are you strong enough to do that?

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i agree Luuv, totally....but i think if i were in her position i couldn't do it...knowing that after 7 weeks u have a human life growing inside of you....could you really kill it??
and yeah it takes two....at the end of the day if ur in a loving relationship you should confide in each other.

You can under 7 weeks but I think you have to be more than 5

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life is wonderful and beautiful you have to share it with your baby

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that was your choice get pregnant why? because of love. you and your bf loved each other why you got into that act.

now why are you thinkin of abortion? does it help you after? you are right, the child havent done anything wrong with you. that child is sooo innocent of what their parents did. DONT PUSH for it

you have to be very responsible to what you did. of course at first your parents might hate you but one thing im very sure they will eventually have you back. that is normal for your parents to hate you of what youve did but be strong enoough for the baby.

soon your parents will even ask if thery could have you and the baby stay at their house so everyday they can see the grandchild..

i agree with the fact that the foetus is innocent, but you have to think of yourself as well. if you think you could cope with a child, and you don't mind your education suffering because of it, then have the baby, but remember what you'll have to give up, and make sure you could give the child a decent life before deciding against abortion.

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Hey, I understand you must be going through such a difficult time at the moment so I really hope your as OK as you can be. I'm new in here so I don't really know like the posting etiquette or anything but I just read your post and really wanted to reply to it because I was in such a similar situation a few years ago. When I was 15 I got pregnant by my boyfriend at the time and it just seemed like the worst thing that could have ever happened to me. He was slightly older than me but we both knew that there was no way we were ready to be parents. I for one did not want to bring an unwanted baby into this world, when I became a mum I wanted it to be for the right reasons. So I had an abortion, and I can honestly say I've never ever regretted it. But the point I wanted to make really was that that choice was right for me, and you need to make whatever choice is right for you. I know it's easier said than done but try not to think about the 'politics' involved with abortion, what do you want to happen? I really truly believe you need to be 100% sure about your choice. I don't think I'm 'evil' at all, I think I was unlucky as I was using contraception at the time, and then made a responsible decision and one that was completely right for me. But its completely up to you, all I'd say is it's a huge thing to even start thinking about, and don't let anyone else make your decision for you. It's your body, no-one elses.
I really hope this helps even a tiny bit and good luck with everything. If you have anything you want to ask me then please feel free.
Sarah-Lou x

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sorry, but i laughed at the hypocrisy
always easier to judge when your not in that position yourself
now you seem to be leaning towards an abortion but if you do that by your own definition your evil.

seriously you got owned by yourself right there

i agree its always easier to judge when ur not in that position!

Can you kill an innocent child inside your womb? I know it's difficult but you have to act more civilized. I mean, you have to trust to what your decisions were. You engaged to do it with your boyfriend then accept the consequences. Your mom and dad won't bear that child. I know its easy to say but on your situation it's not but believe in yourself. You can overcome everything. Trust in GOD

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Uh-oh, not the G word...

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NO ABORTION!